the lost art of friendship.

by kendraannie


My entire life I have considered myself to be a social butterfly. I always had a plethora of friends, er, acquaintances might be the more appropriate term.

My weekends were full of laughter with girlfriends. And yet, after fun-filled nights with acquaintances, I would end up crying to my {now} husband about how I had no friends. I would divulge my deepest feelings about how lonely I was.

Wonky, right?

The Lord has retrospectively taught me two things through this.

First off, I felt lonely because none of these acquaintances I spent most of my time with didn’t know Jesus. They didn’t know my deepest heart. They couldn’t rejoice in my victories as a new believer. They weren’t capable of encouraging my soul towards Christ, challenging me, and praying with me because they didn’t know Him!

Furthermore, I was neglecting the women in my life that WOULD encourage me. I failed to be intentional with my time with them. I wouldn’t call them. Wouldn’t hang out with them. I would occasionally text back when I felt like it.

Of course I was lonely!

The Lord has sweetly been walking with me through this ever since that revelation. He has called all believers to fellowship with one another. He has called us to care for our brothers and sisters so that we can show the world a love unlike any other. He has called us to be vulnerable and open with each other so that healing and restoration can take place. We are designed to be in community with like minded believers. He has called me to text my friends back and care for them deep in my heart!

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you are also to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35

My close friendships are now rooted in Him so that I can be encouraged by my friends to go out and show Christ to my “acquaintances”. Loneliness has a much more difficult time seeping in when I have Christ-centered souls surrounding my own.

I am grateful for you, friends and acquaintances. And I am incredibly sorry that I have not been a better friend in the past.