“I’ll pray for you.”
“Let me know how I can help.”
These are not entirely bad things to say. In fact, the heart behind it is good. But they are void phrases if not carried out.
Stating that you will pray for someone does not let them know if you have actually prayed for them. We need to actually get on our knees and talk to The Lord. We need to hold their hands and pray over them. Or call them and pray over them. Or email our prayer over their lives to them. Or simply text them and say something along the lines of, “Just prayed for strength and endurance for you through this time.”
You know what they need prayer for.
We just need to stop saying we will pray without doing it.
Put yourself in these shoes for a moment. Let’s say you are a wife and mom to two children, ages 2 and 4. Suddenly, your husband passes away and you are left to navigate the waters of losing your best friend and being a single mother while dealing with tantrums and wet bed sheets.
You have friends telling you, “Let me know if I can do anything.”
Do you really want to ask them, “Um, can you come wash pee off my child’s sheets?”
While it’s good for us to ask for help sometimes, it’s difficult for us to even see our own needs during life changing events.
Wouldn’t you rather be the friend that knocks on the door, sends your friend to her bedroom so she can process and cry, wipes down counters, feeds the kids, does dishes, washes that pee sheet, prays over the kids, prays over your friend, hugs your friend, serves, serves, and serves.
And of course every situation is different. Every need is different. Which is why we need to pray that we are cognizant of the needs of those around us.
I just pray that we be a people that wisely use the words God has gifted us with. I pray that we are in tune with where God is calling us to serve and that He reveals to us the needs that we can meet.
1 John 3:18
Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.